Slow it Down and Enjoy the Bloom

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Over the last few months and really the last three years, I have planted multiple seeds that I have wanted to grow for a very long time. Sometimes life throws us too much rain or tsunamis or earthquakes that force us to abandon our blooms for a bit. But once it happens, it’s very important to slow down and enjoy what you have worked so hard to grow.

In addition to being clear on what I want to grow, I have added daily intentions that I foster throughout the day to nourish my seeds. If you’d like some journaling techniques on growing your purpose, check out my previous blog titled: What is Blooming for You? On day 10, my intention was Slow Down and Enjoy the Bloom. The week had been hectic and a few times I wanted to skip the intention process, finish one project, and jump into the next. There’s so much I want to bloom that I tend to rush. This intention process is showing me that I take on too much and don’t stop to appreciate the results of my hard work and nurturing.

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I met with my beta readers and my third manuscript in three years is heading toward the publishing process. It won’t be until the end of 2019, but because I have nurtured this dream, it is growing faster and more vibrant every year. I’m excited and grateful. It’s not done yet, but I slowed down, enjoyed talking with the students who will read the book, and learned from them.

What I love about these intentional words or phrases is that they are like rays of sunshine that remind me throughout the day what I want to focus on. Over the weekend it was Unselfish Me Time, which influenced my decision to get up early, journal to my boys, read, and enjoy the quiet time. This allows me to rejuvenate so that I can give to others and be fully present with my family when they arrived. On Easter Sunday, it was Family Love. It was quiet, but precious in that I spent valuable and quality time with my son and husband.

Throughout the day, I’ll check in so that I stay on track or write through any rough spots. My journal is my ‘pause place.’ I can take a break and reconnect with my purpose. At the end of the day, I take a couple minutes and write about my intention, my growth, whether the intention worked or didn’t. Why and what I can do differently tomorrow.

Use your journal as your personal guidance system. You’ll be amazed at how self-aware you become and you’ll foster your own ability to recharge, reconnect, and nurture yourself.

Give it a try and let me know how it works.

Sunshine Memories

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Draw or print out a smiling sun. Along the sun’s rays, write down who and what brings you joy. Maybe it’s certain people in your life, activities you like to do, self-care like yoga, massage, reading, exercise, sleep. Whatever makes you happy and brings a smile on your face. Fill out all the lines–maybe not all today, but you can keep adding.
 
Then journal about that person or activity and why it brings you joy. You could write one a day. It becomes your positive memory bank. A place that you can return to when life feels too hard or you simply have a bad day. It reminds you that the sun will always shine.
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Decorate your positive memory bank page. Make it yours. There’s only a right way for you to journal, so do what makes you feel happy. Let your inner creativity shine through.

Day Four–Digital Create Space

Sometimes you are forced to make space, because nothing else will fit. This is where I’m at with my macbook. I’ve had it for five years and this is all the space I have left.

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I can no longer download photos or back up my phone. So this morning I worked on my book, carefully editing each page by reading it out loud.

Then I transferred videos and quite a few photos onto Google Drive and deleted them from my computer. It’s very time consuming. While my computer was expelling data, I went through my journals. This was more of an organizing project than creating space. I had journaled to my boys and for myself using the same journals. My plan is to separate them. First, they were messy and Stephen would never be able to read them. Second, they were in the midst of my personal writing, and I didn’t want Stephen to have to read them if he really didn’t want to.

Today, I identified pages written to him and Nick. Now I will set aside time each week to transcribe it into separate journals. It’s a process.

I now have 29 GB free on my computer, but I’m not stopping until I get through my files and photos. There’s so much junk and photos that aren’t clear! The only problem with automatically saving your photos to the Cloud or Google is that all the bad photos gets placed there as well.

It’s becoming clear that my Create Space week may take most of the month, so the rest of life doesn’t get backed up.

A wonderful part of my work today was that I could do it outside in the beautiful weather.

My self-care included walking my dogs and going for a motorcycle ride with Stephen, who is a new rider. It’s a special day in a mom’s life when her son asks her to go riding with him. Life is good!

It’s not over yet! Tomorrow more editing and transferring files!

Day One–Office Create Space

I made it through the first day of creating space in my life and home. I decided to go with the highest priority and clear out my office. Anything I decided to throw away, recycle, or place in a different storage place was handled once. I knew if I put boxes in the kitchen, they would still be there.

By 1pm, there still wasn’t much room on the floor. I felt slightly overwhelmed, but I had cleaned the closet, the drawers, and my bookcase. I managed to clean out my cabinet, remove boxes and throw out a couple bags of garbage and fill the recycling bin halfway. I even cleaned out my desk!

My current office was Nick’s bedroom. I still had his martial arts decor and many of his clay and ceramic figurines on my bookshelf. I decided that part of creating space was changing the decor to reflect my personality. I felt sick to my stomach removing his throwing stars, nunchucks, dragon banner, and his clay creations. I took photos of all his items, so I have those memories. I removed his burgundy and black curtains and packed them in a box. I went into the spare room to find his matching sheets and couldn’t find them. If you saw the room, you would understand why. It has been the catch all place for everyone.

I was frustrated I couldn’t find it, so tried again before I brought the box downstairs. I caught sight of it under some artwork. When I lifted the papers, I found my leather vest that has been missing for a couple of months! I laughed, because if I hadn’t decided to change the decor it would have taken me a while longer to find my vest. It was like Nick was letting me know it was all right.

True to my self-care schedule, I went to Sheryl’s Baptiste class at 4:30pm. Sheryl taught a heart opening class, and it was perfect for my intention. Open space for something new. I felt fabulous after class. The day was going well.

After yoga, I got distracted by dinner, but I accomplished a lot. I still need to decorate the room, create a cozy meditation area, and go through my business and writing files. This last part is going to be done next week I think. It will be a longer process, but I have the space to do it now.

I feel good. Tomorrow is the kitchen. This will be easier I hope! The only flaw is I planned to clean out the fridge, but I just went food shopping yesterday! So the family will be charged with eating a lot this week and it will get moved to the weekend action plan.

Thank you for your support! Love the encouraging words!

May Month in Review

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Most of May was maniacal mayhem. Amazingly, I journaled almost every day, but the level of activity for work, classes, writing, and foundation was too high. Everything else suffered. It’s difficult to find balance when I love all that I do. But there can even be too much of a good thing.

I exercised quite a bit in the beginning of the month, but as life got busier, my self-care suffered. My yoga practice fell off the planet. What I ate went down hill as I reached for fast and easy food. Yes, I know, this is when I should be going to yoga more and fueling my body with what nourishes me and makes me stronger. It’s very easy to write it down, but much harder to follow through. It’s a familiar pattern.

My son came home from college, so the house dynamics shifted. I am adjusting while also loving and appreciating having him home. My house suffered in May. Having another person in the house, yes, but really I didn’t have any time for upkeep and cleaning. I have this bone deep urge to rip my house apart and get rid of junk, stuff I don’t need, in order to clear my life and start fresh.

Create Space:

That’s my goal for no other reason than to be able to breathe a little fuller and appreciate what I have done instead of jumping to the next project because of unrealistic timelines.

Create a space conducive to my writing and creativity.

I am two weeks into June and finally have space in my calendar to catch up. Consistent journaling can be life saving, life altering, and indicative of what is bubbling underneath the surface.

There’s so much that I struggle with and burying myself in work is a way I cope, even if it’s not healthy.

If I want everlasting change I have to dig deep before the eruption takes over everything. That is what journaling during the month of May showed me.

Immediate Goals for June:

Enjoy and appreciate my family.

Get Saving Atlantis to my proofreaders by June 18. Get book to the printer by July 6. It’s a couple weeks off schedule, but still where I want it to be.

Get back to my yoga practice, healthy eating, and exercise.

Journal, journal, journal

How was your month of May? What are your goals for June? It’s never too late to change or start again.

 

Each New Day

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Each new day is a chance to begin again. No matter what is happening in our lives, we have the choice to change where we are going, what we are doing, and how life affects us.

Sometimes those choices mean leaning on others when our load gets too heavy or letting the world go by while taking care of ourselves. Self-care is mandatory if we want to fulfill our purpose and be the best person we can.

Knowing our potential and instilling boundaries is essential.

Start this new year being the best you can be, but remember–be the best to yourself first.

What ways will you take care of yourself this month and this year?

 

Loving Yourself

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I placed this sticker in my journal, because I agreed with the concept, but am not always sure that I follow it. I also thought of the quote, “Love yourself as much as you love others.”

It’s hard to give self-care, but as soon as a good friend or family member is in trouble or needs support I drop everything and am right there. If they are down, I’ll be their biggest cheerleader, and show them how special and unique they are.

When it comes to myself, I have gotten much better, but I will still see all that I haven’t done when I have really accomplished so much. When that happens, looking back to my journal can give me perspective on what I have actually done and the good I have created around me. It also is a clear cut guide on what I have done for myself in terms of self-care.

This is what happened in my life last week:

Pig Roast fundraiser prep and clean up

Lost a wonderful young man to cancer and attended the wake

Prepared for Nick’s Run and Nick’s Ride to be Healed

Set up for writing classes, finalized middle grade novel

Taught journal workshop

Took my mom to appointments and went to a calligraphy class with my niece

Celebrated end of treatment for Bella!

Held a motorcycle fundraiser

The entire week was non-stop action in terms of all I had to get done and support I gave to others. It was a rollercoaster of happy and sad.

Here are some types of self-care that I practice:

Yoga

Weight training/Karate

Meditation

Journaling

Massage

Reading

Walk my dogs

Time with friends and family

Protect my space

Since the weekend before this last, I practiced yoga 4 times, and did other exercise twice, so not bad. I didn’t meditate once! I journaled every day and sometimes twice a day, and that is a huge calming practice for me. No massage. I have listened to an audiobook, but haven’t sat and read in quite a while.

I missed walking the dogs a couple days, because of rain and a lot of fundraising events and prep.

This past Saturday, my husband and I had an impromptu get together with two sets of our good friends. I could have kept doing work, since I’m so behind, but I needed the break. I think it made a huge difference the next day when we had a motorcycle fundraiser. The day was wonderful, and my frame of mind was positive. I also have made sure to spent moments with my son as he will be leaving for school soon.

Protecting my space is huge for me with self-care. I work hard to surround myself with positive people. When working with kids battling cancer, there are very sad situations, and I feel strongly about reaching out. When I do, I’m drained, I miss my son, and the sadness can overtake me. That is when I take the time to recharge by doing whatever self-care works for me in that moment. I have to take care of myself and love myself enough to show empathy and love to those who are suffering.

When I take care of myself and feel good about myself, then I attract positive people who will show me the same kind of love. What you think you deserve is usually what you get. We all deserve to be loved, but we have to believe it and act like it.

Self-care and surrounding myself with positive people and energy has made a huge difference, but it is a constant practice.

How do you show self love? What do you do for self-care, how often? If you don’t, what small step could you take? Track it in your journal and take note of what changes in your life.