I placed this sticker in my journal, because I agreed with the concept, but am not always sure that I follow it. I also thought of the quote, “Love yourself as much as you love others.”
It’s hard to give self-care, but as soon as a good friend or family member is in trouble or needs support I drop everything and am right there. If they are down, I’ll be their biggest cheerleader, and show them how special and unique they are.
When it comes to myself, I have gotten much better, but I will still see all that I haven’t done when I have really accomplished so much. When that happens, looking back to my journal can give me perspective on what I have actually done and the good I have created around me. It also is a clear cut guide on what I have done for myself in terms of self-care.
This is what happened in my life last week:
Pig Roast fundraiser prep and clean up
Lost a wonderful young man to cancer and attended the wake
Prepared for Nick’s Run and Nick’s Ride to be Healed
Set up for writing classes, finalized middle grade novel
Taught journal workshop
Took my mom to appointments and went to a calligraphy class with my niece
Celebrated end of treatment for Bella!
Held a motorcycle fundraiser
The entire week was non-stop action in terms of all I had to get done and support I gave to others. It was a rollercoaster of happy and sad.
Here are some types of self-care that I practice:
Walk my dogs
Time with friends and family
Protect my space
Since the weekend before this last, I practiced yoga 4 times, and did other exercise twice, so not bad. I didn’t meditate once! I journaled every day and sometimes twice a day, and that is a huge calming practice for me. No massage. I have listened to an audiobook, but haven’t sat and read in quite a while.
I missed walking the dogs a couple days, because of rain and a lot of fundraising events and prep.
This past Saturday, my husband and I had an impromptu get together with two sets of our good friends. I could have kept doing work, since I’m so behind, but I needed the break. I think it made a huge difference the next day when we had a motorcycle fundraiser. The day was wonderful, and my frame of mind was positive. I also have made sure to spent moments with my son as he will be leaving for school soon.
Protecting my space is huge for me with self-care. I work hard to surround myself with positive people. When working with kids battling cancer, there are very sad situations, and I feel strongly about reaching out. When I do, I’m drained, I miss my son, and the sadness can overtake me. That is when I take the time to recharge by doing whatever self-care works for me in that moment. I have to take care of myself and love myself enough to show empathy and love to those who are suffering.
When I take care of myself and feel good about myself, then I attract positive people who will show me the same kind of love. What you think you deserve is usually what you get. We all deserve to be loved, but we have to believe it and act like it.
Self-care and surrounding myself with positive people and energy has made a huge difference, but it is a constant practice.
How do you show self love? What do you do for self-care, how often? If you don’t, what small step could you take? Track it in your journal and take note of what changes in your life.