I read today’s entry from Melody Beatty’s Journey to the Heart and it focused on weathering the storm. It’s a perfect passage for me especially as September heads toward October.
It’s OK to be afraid, to acknowledge it, and do what’s needed to feel safe through the storm, no matter what is causing it. It can be illness, extra stress at work, loss, or difficulty in a relationship. Anything that makes you feels like your world is in tumult.
The storms remind me of what I went through when my son Nick was ill with cancer. Some days I couldn’t bear another moment in the sterile hospital. The smells, the cold, the sounds of machines beeping, phones ringing, and hearing my child in pain.
When the storms raged at full capacity, we’d hunker down. I’d cuddle up with him in his hospital bed, and we’d watch A Knight’s Tale or George Lopez. That was our late night ritual. George Lopez made us laugh. It gave us peace, a sense of normalcy, so that when the next storm came, we were stronger.
It’s the same with grief. The tsunamis and tumultuous waves make me feel like I’m going to drown. It’s like the dreams I had as a child. I’m swimming underwater. A sheet a glass covers the surface. I can’t get any air. I grow short of breath. I panic.
When this happens, I settle deep in what comforts me. A warm blanket. A cup of hot tea. Walking my dogs. Reading. Connections with family and friends. If nothing else works, I just breathe through each crashing wave. I’ve become a seasoned storm rider. I know the signs that a storm is brewing. I can prepare a bit sooner, so the storm doesn’t take such a harsh toll on me. The calm serenity comes quicker.
What storm are you weathering?
How can you settle in and bring comfort to you or a loved one?
What can you do right now to prepare for the storm?